Last weekend I went away with my school friends down to Jamberoo—just like last year, only this time Anita was able to join us. Because she was the farthest geographically, we all decided to meet out her way for dinner. And because Ben needed the car that weekend, he and I picked up Liwen and he dropped us off at Ramya's who then drove us out to Anita's. Mel and Ynping came together and we all went for gourmet pizzas at Isabelle's Woodfired Oven Pizzeria restaurant.
When we finished, it was starting to rain and the sky was all moody and grey. I was in the car with Ramya and Liwen and we put on the soundtrack of the most recent Pride and Prejudice and they started gushing about how atmospheric the drive was—through the darkening woods with the misty rain. I had a couple of memory lapses in my directions but we never lost Mel and Ynping (unlike last year), though we did lead them to do figure eights in a carpark as we turned around to visit the local Woolworths for supplies.
We got to the house at around 10:30. The bathrooms have just been renovated so I went to check them out (isn't it interesting that the fashion now is for shower doors to be completely see-through glass? Before, manufacturers used to do everything they could so you couldn't see the person in there; now they seem to do everything they can so you can). We bagged rooms and beds and then started the evening's viewing. Everyone just wanted something light. I happened to have brought down the DVD of Mean Girls (purchased secondhand for $10) and they surprised me by wanting to watch it.
We also found that we had vastly over-catered because everyone had brought some junk food to pitch in but, being six girls, there was really no way we could eat it all!
It was about 1 am when the movie finished and we all went to bed but I stayed up talking to Anita for ages ... pretty much until the sun came up. Which wasn't good sleep-wise but it was so nice to just talk to her properly—which I haven't done in ages.
On the Saturday morning, Liwen and Ramya, who are both working girls, were up early (comparatively early). We all had breakfast together at 9:30 and then, once we were all showered and dressed, we hopped into our cars and went to Bombo quarry which, in my opinion, is one of the most interesting-looking places in the world and has a much more exciting natural formation with the sea coming through than the Kiama blowhole. Unfortunately, even though I packed a hat in my luggage, I didn't bring it with me so I got sunburnt and so did some of the other girls.
After walking around in there for a while and snapping photos, we drove down to Berry for lunch at Lorell's Secret Kitchen and then we walked around the shops—which wasn't as interesting as the previous year because we'd done it before and we didn't really stumble across anything fascinating or new, though I did manage to purchase some curtains for Ben's study at Haven & Space. We made Anita try the donuts from the Very Bonut Dan, then shopped for stuff for dinner, and went home (nearly missed the turn off because I fell asleep and forgot to give directions) and vegged by watching special features of Mean Girls.
I was hoping to watch the first Introducing God talk then with my friends (who had said that they'd like to watch it with me and tell me what they think) but everyone was far too tired and I didn't think it was a good time. Instead, Ynping showed us how to make Scoubidous, using supplies from her stash, and most of us got really into it—fiddling with the plastic strings while we watched episodes of the old Astro Boy series. Meanwhile, Anita was in the kitchen working her magic (Anita is an awesome cook ... I have dreams about her cooking sometimes) and resisting all offers of help. We had butter chicken with that cucumber and yoghurt stuff, plus pappadams (mmm ...).
After dinner I suggested we watch Introducing God and we did. Then we talked about it over dessert (Anita had made pasayam or however you spell it). The conversation was a bit slow in getting started—I suppose it was quite a weird thing for us to be doing, sitting around and talking about God and talking about a speaker ... that's not normal—not something you'd naturally do with friends. And I'm not very good at leading discussions. But nevertheless we did manage to have a very interesting conversation about stuff and Anita was always there to pitch in when I wasn't able to express something properly, or to clarify or whatever. I know my friends are still a long way from knowing who God is but the really cool thing is, when I asked them if they wanted to watch the next talk, they all said yes. So I will have to organise that some time ...
We washed up and then chose the night's viewing, along with the night's nibblies. Someone poured me a Malibu and Coke but I can't say that that's something I would drink by choice (it did smell nice though). I don't usually drink alcohol at all but not because of any moral objection—mostly because I've never liked anything I've tasted.
By this stage it was about 10:30-11:00 pm. Because there was some disagreement about what to watch, I got everyone to vote sort of synod style about what to watch. We managed to get it down to Blackadder (series 3) and Monsters, Inc, but in the end we were so tired, people were dozing off after a couple of episodes of Blackadder and we all went to bed and slept for around 10 hours.
In the morning only Liwen was up, reading on the couch, but occasionally dozing off. It was midday by the time everyone was up and we ate breakfast together, cleaned the house and had a group photo. We were on our way by 2 pm—this time me travelling with Melinda and Ynping because I figured it would be easier logistically with all the dropping people home. I checked to see if my parents were home so I could give them back the keys but they weren't there so I went and hung out at Mel's place for an hour or so, watching Batman and Robin with her and her brother, until Ben came to pick me up, fresh from attending a wedding.
seen: Moon 15/10/2009
read: The Incredibles 11/10/2009
seen: She's the Man 05/10/2009
read: I Kill Giants (Joe Kelly and J. M. Ken Niimura) 04/10/2009
read: Astro City The Dark Ages Book 1: Brothers and Other Strangers (Kurt Busiek, Brent Anderson and Alex Ross) 04/10/2009
seen: Children of Men 02/10/2009
seen: Metric (The Metro) 30/09/2009
seen: 500 Days of Summer 25/09/2009
seen: The September Issue 18/09/2009
seen: Gilmore Girls: Season 1 17/09/2009
read: Flight (Volume 1) (edited by Kazu Kibuishi) 16/09/2009
seen: Ponyo 11/09/2009
read: Batman: Whatever Happened to the Caped Crusader? (Neil Gaiman and Andy Kubert) 05/09/2009
heard: Aimee Mann (Enmore Theatre) 04/09/2009
heard: Ben Folds Solo (Opera House) 31/08/2009
read: Phonogram: Rue Britannia (Kieron Gillen and Jamie McKelvie) 26/08/2009
seen: Northanger Abbey 20/08/2009
read: The Princess Diaries (Meg Cabot) 18/08/2009
seen: The Phantom of the Opera 17/08/2009
seen: Who Framed Roger Rabbit? 10/08/2009
seen: District 9 10/08/2009
read: Shortcomings (Adrian Tomine) 02/08/2009
read: AIR Volume 1: Letters from Lost Countries (Willow Wilson and M.K. Perker) 28/07/2009
seen: Persepolis 25/07/2009
seen: Ghost Town 25/07/2009
heard: Gutter Twins (Seymour Centre) 23/07/2009
seen: Coco Avant Chanel 20/07/2009
seen: Gutenberg! The Musical (Seymour Centre) 16/07/2009
seen: So You Think You Can Dance? Australia Live Tour (Sydney Entertainment Centre) 11/07/2009
seen: Every Little Step 07/07/2009
seen: Transformers 2: Revenge of the Fallen 03/07/2009
seen: Synecdoche, New York 30/06/2009
seen: Charlie's Angels 27/06/2009
seen: Penelope 26/06/2009
seen: Coraline 10/06/2009
seen: The Sky Crawlers 08/06/2009
seen: The Bourne Ultimatum 07/06/2009
seen: The Bourne Supremacy 07/06/2009
seen: The Bourne Identity 06/06/2009
seen: Stick it 05/06/2009
@Sarah: Thanks for the tip RE Australian Breastfeeding Association! I never would have thought to look there. Ditto KMart: I was wondering if they did since Target don’t.
@Rae: Thanks for the tip! I’ll check it out.
@Little Rachel: Oh, I’ll definitely be up for visitors! I may not be very good company (brain-dead, etc.) but I’ll certainly appreciate visits!
@Rachel C: CONGRATS!!! So excited for you
Yours sounds like a good philosophy. One day I shall have to blog about Outliers!
@CafeDave: Thanks for the tip!
@Elissa: Thanks for your kind words! It makes me happy that you and Dave were excited we were getting married! Thanks also for the prayers!
@Elsie: There are lots of other lovely things I could have said about you, but let’s not overload my readers, shall we? ;P
Aww...thanks for the lovely things you said about me! I enjoyed reading this post (as I do with all yours). xo
Congratulations to you both. I know you will be such wonderful parents. You sound WAY too sensible!
(Sorry to read that there were some unusual comments made about your marriage! We thought it was exciting. We still have a lovely photo of you & Ben in our lovely box of special memories. (I was only 22 when married & I was 30 when we had Bonnie...)
Everyone is different! I nodded through your post. SO many people feel the curious need to share their “horror stories” which is just dreadful. I remember complaining to David who said - go find people who are positive & listen to them. Great advice, which I did. Those people still have a big place in my heart because their advice was honest & gentle.
Bless you & Ben & the little Peanut. We pray all goes smoothly over the coming weeks/months ahead. We sometimes forget what a precious little miracle life really is…
Another book from the dad’s perspective I found helpful was From here to paternity - it’s an Australian book, and was followed up with a blog.
Hi!
I’m so excited for you reading your blog about being pregnant
I am 13 weeks pregnant with #2.
You’re so right about all the pessimism “advice” that you get. I got so mad about it but never found a good response. I’ve had such joy right from day one with E that I just don’t want to buy into the negativity (I’m sure kids pick up on it too!).
My philosophy was/is to be a relaxed mum and from that figure out what was best for my baby/child. Get advice when you’re not sure on things or want to know how other people approached things, read books (loved Outliers!) that aren’t all about parenting… but just enjoy.
In a sample size of one to date, I’ve had such a happy, chilled out son right from day one. People say all the craziest advice… glad you don’t do guilt
With love,
R
Thanks so much for writing more! I love hearing how you’re going and all your thoughts.
After watching my sister I agree with you that it seems the first six months are perhaps the hardest. She got quite lonely at home all day; weekends were all right because then her husband was around but it’s just as you say… one feed ends then the next begins! If you are accepting visitors during this period then I hope to use some RDOs to come have grown-up conversations!
The book review of The Second Nine Months makes me want to read it now!
Names: We have one girl name that we both like and no boy names that we agree on. But they are also top-secret… so if anyone else uses them we can’t accuse them of theft!
Yay Peanut, keep on growing, can’t wait to meet you!
Hello! Thanks for sharing
I loved reading your pregnancy update! I am glad to hear that things are all going pretty well, and I hope the rest of your 2nd trimester is as good.
I just wanted to add, that some other blokes decided that there was not much for the fathers-t0-be, and made a couple of DVD’s just for expectant dads. They are called ‘Being Dad’and i think they are available at big W. I have both though, if you would like me to send them!
Just wanted to wish you all the best!
Love
Rae
re: gluten: no idea!! I didn’t have to go on that diet - it was probably related to the test I didn’t do.
At the risk of adding to your list of advice:
Re: maternity bras - because I’m big I had to look hard for something nice in my size and discovered the Australian Breastfeeding Association. They have a massive range online and most are (dare I say it) sexy.
Re: maternity clothes - Kmart have a nice range of basic stuff.. I only found out towards the end of pregnancy and I would have liked to know earlier!
Re: Parenting classes - if you’re at RPA you can just ring the midwives section (they’ll put you through) and ask directly.
Congratulations again
Don’t laminate your ultrasound picture
That is my advice.
Congratulations! This is so fantastic!
Thanks so much for sharing all of this… people swap engagement stories but rarely pregnancy stories! And it’s kind of similar don’t you think, all this excitement leading up to a big day!
So happy for you guys! Actually never been more excited for anyone except my sister! I think it’s because I think that you will both be amazing parents and love the idea that someone could grow up in your family.
Looking forward to many more posts on the topic.
Lovely news, Karen.
Thanks everyone! I will be sure to ask for help when I need it!
Great pic!! Peanut is cute! :D
Praying for you all!
xx
:D
I had a similar sort of morning sickness.. except I threw up! I’m suitably impressed that you coped OS.. that must have been tough.
It sounds like you’re doing marvelously otherwise!
Book recommendation on something a bit less technical and a bit more human: ‘Birth’ http://www.birthnet.com.au/
Praise be to God indeed! Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful.
Congratulations, Beilharzen! Welcome to the slightly-bewildering world of pregnancy (and birth...and children...). God has blessed you greatly with this new life. We’ll be praying for Peanut’s growth and development, and for you guys as you prepare.
I’m sure you’re surrounded by baby veterans, but always happy to help with books/advice/recommendations/listening.
B&L;
Excellent job Karen! You SHOULD be pleased with yourself!
Have you discovered http://www.ravelry.com ? It is an excellent site with thousands of free patterns in its database, lots of support, tips, forums etc and of course - friends like me? Look me up when you get there - fionag77
PS Are you just wearing a bulky dress or are you sporting a bump under that dress?
oooh.... It’s done and it looks great on you! xxx
Well done on all that hard work! It looks great and will be very snuggly come winter!
Thanks for letting me know, Timo!
Hi there,
Thanks for pointing out the shortcoming on our website. I’ll pass it on to my colleagues and hopefully it will be rectified soon.
The documentary at Fashioning Now was by Holly Kaye-Smith; I’d be more than happy to put you in touch with her if you’d like.
Again, thanks for the comment, much appreciate it!
Kind regards,
Timo Rissanen
Thanks Mark! Much appreciated!
Rich survey, Karen. Particularly I was struck by the notion of Jesus being clothed with our sins. I heard recently somebody suggest the crown of thorns was a kings crown but it was made of the symbol of the curse in the Garden - thorns. I would like to read your thoughts about Joseph’s coat of many colours.
Looking forward to the next installment. Regards,Mark
It is lovely - and looks great on you.
You’ve made me want to read it - though I may need an interpreter at times!
Well done with the sewing!
I think it looks good - very relaxed and spring-y.
Hey Sandra! Thanks for the tip! I read it yesterday, but I struggled a bit because Lewis doesn’t start from the Bible. I wasn’t convinced by his argument. What did you think?
Interesting post Karen - Thanks
I like the ending too! :D
xxx
Fantastic post, Karen. Just great. Thanks!
Thanks Bec! Eternal life just keeps getting better and better ...
I do like the way you ended this post - excellent thought.
Personally I don’t feel that way. Maybe that’s something you should blog about?
Wow. Lots of things to pick up on there. It’s been interesting to see the changes to your blog these last 6-12 months: Twitter is certainly more immediate, but are there (gasp) downsides to having its constant buzz in the ear?
Is our (already fractured) ability to concentrate on a single relationship at a time further jeapordised by the regular buzz of tweetdeck (and worse yet, by the imagined sense of loss that goes with being off the grid)?
Or am I just projecting my own fears?
Hi Karen!
If you’re still thinking about this… I just read CS Lewis’s essay “Learning in War-time” which exactly addresses this issue (ie. how can we justify cultural & aesthetic pursuits when people are going to hell around us?). Have you read it? i’d be interested to hear what you think..
(i have it in his little volume “Transposition and other Addresses”, but it’s easily findable online)
I’m doing my own series on the trials and tribulations of writing on my own blog here http://sedshed.blogspot.com/search/label/From%20Head%20to%20Hand
It’s coming along slowly
Coincidentily, I stumbled upon the above Phonogram vs. the Fans cover when digging around for ID concepts for Salt. A disturbingly brilliant image.
Thanks Karen. At the very least, this post gives some context to your myriad of phonogram tweets. At best, it has reinvigorated my stagnated appreciation of comics.
Seriously, though 4,549 words. Is that the best you can do? I say, longer!
Maybe discomfort is better for writing.
Showing her daughter that women are great by doing tours and walking in the footsteps of famous women. I like that this article is about engagement.
Jordan White, editor for Marvel, answers questions.
Jamie McKelvie answers questions.
Vision therapy as a treatment for ADHD, learning disabilities and even autism. The scientific community's opinion. The results of concentrated therapy.
Kieron Gillen on Phonogram, Siege, Ares, Loki and his collaborative relationship with Jamie McKelvie.
Superheroes and how they have changed the way we see urban landscape. Their attraction to New York.
Kieron Gillen talking about Phonogram's run and the effect it had on its audience.
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Sounds like a good, blessed and relaxing weekend. Especially the 10 hour sleep part.
That is awesome Karen! I’ll let Dom know - he loves stories like that…
ah, scoubidous.
made semi-famous by Napolean Dynamity.
we made them on beach mission. we even got macho bricklayers’ apprentices to make them.
i’m thinking of selling them to pay my way through college
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