Random thought: Mr & Mrs Smith, and marriage

Sunday, 07 June, 2009

I reckon Mr & Mrs Smith is an awesome movie about marriage. That's a rare thing in Hollywood. It charts the progress of a relationship from birth to six years after they tie the knot, and all the different stages of the relationship are charted—the falling in love stage where everything is new and exciting; the going on dates stage; the getting serious stage; the getting married stage; and then the getting bored/on the verge of separation stage (the latter being the focal point for much of the plot). I love how various elements of the story become somewhat metaphorical for their relationship—how they live together but don't really know who the other person is (and then there's that lovely section of the film where they find out, moving past the lies to the truth in amidst shoot-outs and car chases); how they lead separate and independent lives; their marital disputes (with knives, guns and explosives; what other couple fights like this???); their marriage falling apart, even as their house falls down around them; them being faced with the decision whether or not to separate and continue on alone (which would be easier, given what they were up against), or band together and stick it out. And then by the end, we see they've overcome the obstacles—that their united front is vindicated when they're the last ones left standing in the outdoor section of the department store.

It's really tasks 2, 4, 5 and (to a certain extent) 9 of Judith Wallerstein's nine tasks for married couples—i.e.

Definitely not just an action flick ...


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Yes! I think that every time I see it and is the primary reason why I enjoy it so much. The moment in the car when they are confessing to every lie they ever told… ^-^

Hmm. I hadn’t thought of it that way. I will have to watch it again.

I think I’ve always been distracted by how close it is to the Mark Knopfler song Nobody’s Got the Gun.

I couldn’t make it past the first 10 minutes.

Of the movie that is. Not my marriage!

Should I reconsider?

It’s really up to you, Justin! If it’s not your kind of movie, I wouldn’t bother. But if you like action and escapism, give it another go.


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