Thursday, 07 May, 2015
When I say “Day of Rest”, it's not really an entire day; it's really 5-6 hours in between preschool drop-off and pick-up—the only time in the week when I can be alone in my flat, not seeing anyone, not doing anything in particular. But it can feel like a whole day when done right.
And when I say “rules”, it's more like “guidelines” (in no particular order and most particular to me). But anyway:
- Get Ben to do the morning routine for the girls and sleep in a little (i.e. until 8am, because then you need to be up, showered and breakfasted in order to take Astrid to preschool).
- Don't see anyone. You are an introvert and this is pretty much the only time when you are guaranteed to be alone. So make the most of it.
- Don't do any housework. Housework is for the rest of the week. Well, wash the dishes after lunch if you must, but don't do anything else.
- Do not use the time to be creative. (Unless you are really burning to, of course.) This is a time for rest, not a time for work. (Unfortunately creativity is more “work” than “rest”.)
- DO NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT RESTING. The rest of the week is full-on and you work really hard on all the other days. (Like really hard. People tell you that your days are epic and they don't squeeze anywhere near as much as you do into their days.) This is the day that keeps you sane. This is the day that makes the other days work. So enjoy your “day” off and ignore the haters.
- Be mindful of how much time you have and how limited that time is: you won't be able to do everything you want. You cannot, for instance, read a whole book, watch a movie, go for a walk and have a nap in an unhurried fashion in only 5.5 hours. Be realistic.
- Make a list of things you'd like to do with this time (bearing in mind the previous point about being realistic). Make sure it encompasses things that you cannot normally do when you have children around (e.g. reading comics in bed).
- On the above list, be sure to include things that will feed you creatively—comics (because you make comics), YouTube videos (I always keep a list to Watch Later, which I add to throughout the rest of the week), TED talks, Big Hearted Business Inspiration Bombs, non-fiction books, TV show episodes, movies, etc. This is a day for consumption—to receive input instead of expending energy the way you do the rest of the week when you're on parenting's front lines.
- Be sure to read something because reading (well, the reading of books and comics) usually doesn't happen in the rest of your week (the reading of Twitter always happens).
- Keep reading for the morning and watching things for the afternoon because you have more energy and are better able to concentrate in the morning, whereas in the afternoon, you experience post-lunch slump.
- Always make a list or a plan because if you don't, it won't feel like you've done anything with your Day of Rest. It doesn't have to be an incredibly detailed list; it's just more a list of ideas—things you'd really like to do with your day. Like:
Even if you don't do them all, at the end of the day, you'll still feel like you've done some nice restful things with your time.
- Catch up on Twitter
- Read Jem and the Holograms #2
- Read Seconds by Bryan Lee O'Malley
- Watch John Oliver on YouTube
- Go through all the Houzz e-newsletters that have been piling up in your inbox over the past couple of months and skim-read them at your leisure
- Listen to a podcast episode while knitting
- Eat a crumpet with butter for morning tea
- Listen to the new Sufjan Stevens album.
- Set an alarm so you know when you leave for preschool pick-up and are not constantly stressing about whether you'll forget about the time.
- Be thankful to God for your Day of Rest.
/Karen/ had a thought at 8:34 PM
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